“The heart of a father is the masterpiece of nature.” ― Antoine François Prévost d’Exiles,
Just like mothers, fathers are irreplaceable and they are the ones who build the very foundations of a family. His role stretches far beyond than being the provider of the family. Every move, word, action, smile, decisions he makes keeps stirring and shaping the lives he begot. Unfortunately, many fathers are either unaware or they underestimate the power and influence they have on their children.
While dads are often referred to as ‘Superheroes’ and ‘Superdads’, it subtly sets an expectation for men to attempt the impossible or the unattainable to get the approval and admiration of their wives and children. Contrarily, the fact of the matter is, what makes them ‘SUPER’ are the little things that they invest their love and time into!
With ‘Farsdag’ (Father’s Day in Swedish) around the corner, I wanted to share five seemingly insignificant attributes that sets apart SUPER-DADS!
A Super-Dad Values his Wife
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” – Henry Ward Beecher
The way a man values, honours and treats his wife with dignity will teach his son to respect and honour the women in the family and community. For a daughter who sees her dad valuing her mother, instills value and worth in herself. A super-dad will never ever consider his wife as a subordinate, but as his equal – his best half!
A Super-Dad Sees a Super Hero in his Child
A super dad doesn’t merely raise a good child, but a child who makes a good difference. Every parent strives to impart good moral values to their children, but the time has come for us to raise children who are taught to think beyond themselves – kids who can be considerate about the people and the need around them. A super-dad not only teaches his child to identify the needs, but shows how small acts of kindness and thoughtfulness can make a massive difference! Thereby, nurturing the superheroes of tomorrow!
A Super-Dad is Human
“Fathers, like mothers, are not born. Men grow into fathers – and fathering is a very important stage in their development.” ~ David M. Gottesman
A super-dad sets ‘excellence’ his goal and not perfection. A very crucial criteria required for excellence is to remain down-to-earth, owning mistakes and taking responsibility. For a father to accept his imperfection or mistakes and being open to feedback in front of his family will teach the kids that it is okay to stumble but it’s important to get back on the feet again. The emotional vulnerability a super-dad expresses shapes children who are more open and willing to learn and adapt!
A Super-Dad is Present
With the advancement of technology, most dads bring home their work and are inseparable with their gadgets. A super-dad knows when its time to keep the gadgets aside and enjoy the moment with his family. He is present when his child wants him to listen, converse or play. He is present not just physically, but invests all of himself in spending quality time.
“If we miss the moment, we miss the clues. In the present, when we allow ourselves to fully live there, we are restored, made wiser, made deeper and happier.” –Marianne Williamson
A Super-Dad Lives by Example
Today, parents set such surreal expectations for their children while their own actions are from the set expectations. That’s where a super-dad differs. He doesn’t just preach. He practices. It’s no longer his words that set the goals, but his very life becomes a testament to what he desires for his family.
“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Dads, reflect on these. These little things are what makes you a SUPER-DAD! Moms, sit with your kids and make a list of things that make your man a SUPER-DAD! He wouldn’t know it until you tell it! Make this Farsdag a very special and memorable one!
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